Yes you did!
No I didn’t!
And on and on and on. Backseat bickering drove me insane. The minute my kids sat in the car they forgot how to speak to one another. Back and forth and back and forth until all of the sudden, “WOULD YOU KIDS PLEASE STOP TALKING AND JUST BE QUIET BECAUSE I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE AND ONE MORE PEEP OUT OF EITHER IF YOU AND I’M GOING TO PULL THIS CAR OVER!!!”
I’m not sure what I would have done when I pulled the car over, but it always seemed like an effective threat when my mom hurled it into the backseat.
Bickering drives me crazy. At least it used to. Then I watched this awesome video from Dr. Deborah Gilboa, parenting expert extraordinaire.
Y’all. It worked. Yes. It worked, it worked, it worked! Now all I have to do is say “that sounds like bickering” to get my kids to stop and think about what they are doing. It is like a miracle. And an even bigger miracle is this is just one piece of amazing advice from Dr. G. Not only does she have a YouTube channel AND a website chock full of great parenting tips, NOW she also has a book that you can buy and keep in your home like a parenting manual.
I am not one to read help or how to books, but this book is so awesome I made an exception. So what do I love about it?
1. Four Easy Sections – The book is broken down into four sections: Respect: That’s My Kid!, Responsibility: Count on It, Resilience: Raising Problem Solvers, and Making Change Happen: How to Actually Get Kids to Do This Stuff. This makes it so easy to find what you are looking for so that you can get right to what you need to know.
2. Short, Simple Chapters – Each chapter in the book is only two to five pages and includes relevant, actionable items you can put into place right away. Examples of the problems Dr. G addresses are Manners Matter, Seek Out Diversity, Teach Kids to Get Themselves Clean, Chores: Good for You and Them, They’re Mean: Friend Management, Bad Things Happen, Rights vs Privileges, Surprising Consequences, and many, many more.
3. Covers All Ages – A lot of parenting books are designed for one age group, but not this one. Each chapter covers how to help toddlers to teens with different tips and suggestions that will be effective for that age.
4. Bullet Points and Lists – Each chapter is broken down into bullet points and lists. I love this because it reads as an action plan for parenting and it makes me feel like it is all doable.
5. It is NOT Preachy – I will admit that when Cady was a toddler I picked up a few parenting books. I could not get into any of them. They all seemed so preachy and “this is the one and only way”. Ugh. Dr. G’s book is not like that at all. She admits that she is not perfect and has made mistakes with her own kids. She also says up front that YOU are the expert on YOUR kids. Her tips are just that, tips. She makes you feel like you can really do this.
6. Dr. G is a Great Cuddler –
Photo by Elaine, The Miss Elaine-ous Life
Wait, that’s not part of the book.
Look, a lot of really smart people have endorsed this book, and yes it is true that Dr. G is a family physician, international speaker, award winning parenting expert, and author, but she is also a mom of four boys who has put these lessons into practice herself. AND so have I. I have personally seen how effective they are, and I could not recommend this book more strongly. Go to Amazon or Barnes & Noble and buy it today.
What is one parenting question YOU would ask Doctor G?