Have you seen the video yet of Mateo, the three year old who loves to debate? My friend Arnebya shared it, and I laughed and laughed, and I felt a little bit sorry for Mateo’s mom, Linda. We know that’s her name because throughout the video he says, “Linda, Linda, Honey, listen, listen to me…” You can tell at three he is already an old pro at trying to talk his way out of trouble.
I read an article yesterday about how the video has gone viral. Mateo and his mom have been on the Ellen show and the internet is all a buzz about the (maybe) future litigator. Of course as it goes with anything that concerns being a mom, people are on two sides of the fence about how Linda parents her son.
I saw it as a cute video of a little boy trying to talk his way out of trouble. Some people see it as a little brat being disrespectful. You can watch the video and decide for yourself, but here are three things that I think we can learn from Mateo’s Mom.
1. She lets her child be who he is. I believe there are certain things we can do to shape who our kids are going to be, but a huge part of their personality is something with which they are born. Mateo was born to debate. Sometimes this can be hard to do as a mom, especially when you have a child with a big personality.
2. She stays firm. I think from the video it is pretty obvious that this is not Linda’s first rodeo with Mateo. I love that she is unwavering during the entire encounter. She said no cupcakes and she means no cupcakes. She’s not giving in. I can’t say that is something I always do.
3. She never loses her patience. We only see two and half minutes of this encounter, but through the entire video she never loses her cool with him. She listens (Linda, Honey, listen, listen) to him and the case he builds for himself and his brother to have cupcakes, and she never yells at him or is short with him. I know that is something I can’t say that I would do in the same situation.
I know some people think Mateo is disrespectful. I think he’s three. I think he was born with a huge personality and the fight to go after what he believes is right. And I think that he was born to the exact mother he needed. Kudos to Linda.
If her parenting is not enough to make you love her, Mateo’s mom and dad have also launched a website, Mateo Wants a Cupcake. They are selling shirts with his tagline, “Linda, Honey, Honey, Listen”. The money raised will go into a college fund for Mateo and a portion of all sales will benefit the Safe Haven Animal Sanctuary.
Something I’ve said before is that we can learn a lot from moms that parent differently than we do. I believe that, and I believe there is a lot we can learn from Mateo’s mom. What do you think?