This week my real life advice column is going to address one of those issues that strikes fear into the heart of people everywherere… In-laws. The combining of two families can be a complicated process, especially when it starts out with the new member being a Bridezilla.
Oh in-laws. We all have them, and they can make life a challenge sometimes. I think this is an especially touchy situation because it is going to set the tone for all future dealings with your new sister-in-law.
I believe that a wedding should be about two families joining together, not just the bride and groom. I also believe that every woman deserves to have her dream wedding (within her means). I don’t think “dream wedding” goes so far as to where people sit, especially when it is parents of small children.
You have three options. You can go along with her crazy idea and regret it and feel bitter toward her for a long time about it. Because let’s face it, this is how those annoying little things with family members get started. Or option number two, you can hire a babysitter and just choose not to have your children at the wedding. Or option number three, you can tell her no.
If you decide to go with option number three, which is probably the one I would choose, email or call her and tell her that you understand that all of the wedding details are extremely important to her, and that you remember how stressed you were about all of those things on your wedding day; however, it is not possible for you to sit separately from your children and that you will need your husband to be with you. And if she doesn’t agree? Well, then do it anyway.
Here’s the thing, you know what it is like to get married and feel that rush of excitement and stress. She does not know what it is like to be the mother of small children. One day, maybe, she will look back on this and realize how ridiculous she was being. If she hasn’t already forgotten about it.
I think this is the time you set the tone for the rest of your relationship with this person. What position do you want to hold in that relationship?
Hope this helps,
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Disclaimer: Advise This is a real life advice column that I started at the encouragement of a few friends. Read more to find out what it is all about. I am not a licensed therapist or professional advice giver. All thoughts and opinions are my own and should only be considered anecdotal. Any physical or mental harm that comes from taking my advice is on you.