If you asked what was the one thing I hate most about parenting, it would not be vomit or poop in the bathtub or the hours of lost sleep or even the whining. It would be homework. I don’t know how it is at your house, but at ours, homework is evil.
A number of factors add up to make the daily homework routine a struggle.
1. We’re all tired. I drop the kids off for school every morning at about seven. We get home from school/daycare and work at about five. That’s a really long day. By the time we get home all we want to do is eat dinner, take a bath, and put on our pajamas. The last thing any of us want to do is more work.
2. We have different learning styles. Cady learns in a completely different way than I do. It makes it really hard for me to help her because I don’t know how to get through to her. Plus they teach kids to do things a different way than they did when I was in school. Sometimes I will be helping her and she will say, “My teacher says we can’t do it like that.” Well too bad because that’s the only way I know how to do it.
3. We can never find a pencil. Seriously. Where are all the freaking school supplies? I can not tell you how many boxes of pencils and bottles of glue I’ve purchased. They just disappear, and then when we need them they are gone. This may seem like a simple thing, but after you’ve argued for 15 minutes over who moved the pencil that was used yesterday and scoured the house for a new one, we could have been done with the homework. It’s a problem.
4. Cady lacks confidence. For you long time readers that will come as a shock, but it is true. For all other things, Cady lives out loud and has a great self esteem, but when it comes to school work she crumbles. There are several things at play here, but (in my opinion) the main one is that I think she has dyslexia. We have traveled a hard road with the school, but they have agreed to test her. Just admitting that there may be another force at play has helped, but we still have this struggle with her believing that she can not do the work. It is heartbreaking for me and frustrating for her.
Homework often ends up with one of us in tears, either crying over the paper (her) or hiding in the bathroom (me). The atmosphere gets so contentious when I force her to do her homework that often, I don’t even try. I just let it slide. When she gets a bad grade on a spelling or math test, I blame myself and promise to try harder to come up with a solution to this problem.
I’m working to implement her tips, and I’m hoping that they help alleviate some of the pain that homework causes at our house.
What about you? Do you think homework is evil? What are some tips you may have to help us with our problem? What works for you?